It's an expression here that means someone is jealous and/or greedy. There's usually one in a family. Mine is filled with them. But the worst is my disowned aunt.
Before my uncle Kev passed away, before I was born, my aunt had planned that if my grandparents passed away she would have the house and look after my uncle Kev. My mother would get the rest. Seems innocent until you find out that she would have control over my uncle Kev's bank account, his allowance and herself a carers allowance for looking after uncle Kev. Plus the fact he hated her.
Thankfully that didn't happen. When me and my cousins were born my uncle Kev watched over our prams. Hayley he watched half the time, Lee not at all and myself he never left my side. Even after his death he still kept watch over me. That made my aunt jealous of me. Uncle Kev was a good judge of character.
As I grew older she became jealous of who I am and how I've turned out. I was a quiet and well behaved baby. The first sign of an old soul. As a kid I was withdrawn, mostly cause I was bullied over my weight, but very mature for my age. In my teens she disappeared from my life, except birthday and christmas cards, when I was confirmed in the Church of England. Then after I had turned 18 and unemployed I confronted her.
After my uncle's death my gran became depressed. She lost a lot of loved ones in a short space of time. My mother rang my aunt to ask her to look after her. We lived counties away but my aunt was just a few streets away. My aunt refused. She had disowned my gran in her hour of need and never told anyone why. I wanted answers. I wanted to know why she did that. But when I asked my aunt refused to tell me. I also asked her not to send me cards.
I found before my gran passed away that my aunt had disowned me. It doesn't surprise me. Maybe some people don't want to put the hard work into relationships? Maybe my aunt had built up a life of lies and my existence shattered that illusion?
She turned up to my gran's funeral. 13 years after she disowned gran. I didn't need to go to gran's funeral but I know I'd have confronted my aunt for that act. I think my gran also knew that and arranged for events so I wouldn't be there. Don't get me wrong I love my gran and miss her stories of the olden days dearly but she wasn't suffering any more so why should I suffer.
Since then my aunt has been digging her claws into grampa. He had wrote her out of his will after what she did. But christmas day I over heard him talking to my other gran. He's changed his will to include her. So when he finally passes it's gonna raise hell. I know the damage after that will be irreparable.
My mother already hates my aunt. My aunt just wants grampa's money. My grampa wants my aunt to manage his estate. My mother will have the death certificate, the plot certificate and grampa's medals. My cousins will want money too. My dad will want to get it all dealt with and as he says "death is the ultimate test of a relationship". This will certainly test my family and rip us apart. Personally I'm happy with memories.
I have a new job starting soon and if things go well...I expect my aunt and cousins to be coming after my money too.
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